Dissolution

July 30, 2009

The Dissolution of Vows can be Opportunity for Growth

Susan never imagined she’d find herself facing the challenges of a messy separation. When she and Greg married eight years ago she had thought it was a match made in heaven. But that was before their lives became so complicated.. Before the demands of his job kept Greg toiling well past sunset. Before the needs of the kids filled so much of her day. Before aging parents needed assistance. Before the stress of finances caused distraction. Before Greg had gotten involved with another woman. It was that final straw which caused Susan to pick up the phone. Susan wanted to contact the best Atlanta divorce lawyer she could find. She knew she needed to find just the right Atlanta divorce attorney. Susan was taking the all important first step to regain control of her life. She isolated a few components where she could control the situation in which she found herself.

The first thing Susan proposed to manage was to obtain top-rate legal counsel. Susan had heard many stories from girlfriends and acquaintances. She knew women who were out-represented by their spouses and who were effectively rendered penniless. Susan wanted a legal representative who would fearlessly voice her expectations. She knew that getting someone with her best interests at heart would be not only wise, but necessary Susan and Greg’s separation was bound to be complicated what with Greg’s unfaithfulness, custody issues involving their three children, and the division of their substantial financial assets. Finances aside, she purposed to be organized, attentive and vigilant.

The second thing Susan pursued was weekly meetings with a licensed therapist. While she and Greg had opted for therapy as a final choice, Susan realized she could benefit from individual therapy. Susan had been profoundly wounded by Greg’s infidelity and felt that she was struggling with trust issues. Additionally, Susan had battled depression in her teens and understood that apart from legitimate assistance, she was likely to face old demons yet again. Susan realized her goal of staying mentally healthy and balanced was not only important for her during the separation proceedings but important for parenting her children as well.

The last item Susan focused on was her physical fitness and well-being. Susan had been wounded by infidelity. She easily could have deemed her body as ugly and out-of-shape. However, despite many urges to indulge in comfort food and the escape of television, Susan made a priority out of daily work-outs. She began spending time with an athletic guru who helped develop the proper exercise regimen for her. She knew that staying strong would be crucial to her adjustment to single parenting. Additionally, she found the method of regular fitness gave structure to her often unstructured existence.

So while Susan’s romance did not turn out as she had planned, she vowed to take control of the stresses brought about by the dissolution of her marriage. She pro-actively took charge of her circumstances and began choosing activities that would be advantageous. She opted to associate with people who could help her reach her goals. By identifying her ideals and her potential weaknesses, Susan was able to confidently approach her future.

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